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Discover the Gottman
Relationship Builder

Practise Makes Perfect

The Gottman Relationship Builder is a collection of exercises and videos designed to improve your relationship and that will help make sure what you learn in therapy sticks.

As a powerful therapy tool, the Gottman Relationship Builder will help you practice the skills needed to build a stronger, healthier relationship.

The Builder was developed by the world’s leading relationship experts and is based on over 50 years of research that has helped more than 100,000 couples

Discover the Gottman Relationship Builder

Practise Makes Perfect

The Gottman Relationship Builder is a collection of exercises and videos designed to improve your relationship and that will help make sure what you learn in therapy sticks.

As a powerful therapy tool, the Gottman Relationship Builder will help you practice the skills needed to build a stronger, healthier relationship.

The Builder was developed by the world’s leading relationship experts and is based on over 50 years of research that has helped more than 100,000 couples

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Sample Exercise

This preview shows one partner’s instructions for the “Dream Catcher” exercise, intended to help couples tackle gridlocked problems.

  1. Choose a perpetually gridlocked problem to work on before you do this exercise from the Perpetual Problems and Gridlock section’s Exercise.
  2. Decide who will be the Dream Catcher and who will be the Dream Speaker—later you will switch roles.


When you are the Dream Catcher, all you have to do is read aloud each of the following questions one by one, in the order in which they are written. After you ask a question, the Dream Speaker will do their best to answer it. Be sure to give your partner plenty of time to do so.

Also, it’s important that you not bring up your position on the issue or challenge the speaker’s answer when you are the listener. Just proceed reading aloud each question and listening to your partner’s answers until all the questions have been asked. If you like, you may ask follow-up questions if you are confused by one of your partner’s answers. But be sure your question is only for clarification.
Afterward, it will be time to trade roles.

Here are the questions for the dream catcher to ask:

  • Do you have any core beliefs, ethics, or values that are part of your position on this issue?
  • Is there a story behind this for you, or does this relate to your background or childhood history in some way?
  • Tell me why this is so important to you.
  • What feelings do you have about this issue?
  • What would be your ideal dream here?
  • Is there a deeper purpose or goal in this for you?

 

Hopefully, you now understand each other’s positions on your issue more fully. It’s a great time now or next time to work together on creating a compromise for your issue.

What is Included in the Gottman Relationship Builder?

Your therapist has invited you to access a wide range of Gottman Couples Therapy resources through the Relationship Builder. The Builder provides you with the following:

14

Easy-to-follow modules

covering topics like communication, intimacy, conflict resolution, shared values, and emotional connection.

90

Short videos

featuring the Drs. Gottman demonstrating helpful relationship skills.

41

Interactive exercises

you and your partner can do together or individually.

70%

Off of the full price

for all Gottman Couples Therapy modules!

Lifetime access to all content, so you can revisit tools anytime you need a refresher.

Get Started In Three Simple Steps

Accept the invitation

Your therapist will begin by inviting you (and your partner, if applicable) via an introductory email.

Create your profile

If you don’t have a Gottman account, you will complete a simple registration flow to create your Gottman account.

Work through your assigned modules

Your therapist will work with you directly to create a therapy plan and will assign you modules with instructions specific to your needs. Feel free to work ahead, all the modules are available at your disposal!

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Get Started
Three Simple Steps

Step 1.
Accept the invitation

Accept the invitation

Your therapist will begin by inviting you (and your partner, if applicable) via an introductory email.

Step 2.
Create your profile

Create your profile

If you don’t have a Gottman account, you will complete a simple registration flow to create your Gottman account.

Step 3.
Work through your assigned modules

Work through your assigned modules

Your therapist will work with you directly to create a therapy plan and will assign you modules with instructions specific to your needs. Feel free to work ahead, all the modules are available at your disposal!

Find a Therapist

Frequently Asked Questions

No, while recommended, you don’t need to take any assessments to use the Builder with your clinician, but feel free to ask your clinician about pairing the Builder with the famous Gottman Relationship Checkup.
No, a partner isn’t required for you to work with your clinician using the Builder.
The Builder includes 14 modules that cover all facets of the Gottman Method: friendship, intimacy, sex, how well you know your partner, how you manage emotions and conflict, how you share your values and goals, and what gives meaning to your lives.
There are over 94 short and informative videos of Drs. John and Julie Gottman role-playing the right and wrong way to use your newfound skills. You do not have to watch all 90 videos, only the ones that you are interested in and the ones your clinician recommends.
Once you invest in the Relationship Builder, you will have access to it indefinitely and can go back to it time and time again.

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Looking for a therapist?

Meet our network of trusted,
Gottman-trained therapists on the Gottman Referral Network!

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