… avoid tension, especially if your partner tends to react defensively. You might worry that expressing your thoughts could lead to disagreement or even an argument. But constantly biting your tongue can create an underlying tension, as you may feel that your voice isn’t being heard. According to Dr. John Gottman, a leading relationship researcher, healthy relationships thrive on honest and open communication, even when it involves disagreement. It’s worthwhile to weigh whether your silence is soothing or just sweeping issues under the rug.
Over time, consistently holding back can also lead to a sense of …