Get Back on Track During Conflict

Turn arguments around and manage conflict with a few simple phrases.

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Even in a healthy relationship, mistakes, carelessness, and conflict are inevitable. The right repairs at the right time can make all the difference. ⁠
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Resolve disagreements and get your message through by finding common ground, sharing when you feel persuaded, and stating when you need to take a break or when you feel that you’re both moving towards a solution.⁠

Getting Back On Track During Conflict: Pause, Rewind, Repair

I just need this to be calmer right now
Can I take that back?
I need your support right now
Can we take a break?
Let me try again
I’m sorry
I really messed up, I can see my part in this
I want to say this more gently but I don’t know how
I know that this isn’t your fault
Thank you for…
I understand
I love you

Together, you can get back on track during conflict.⁠
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Repair is one of the best tools a couple can have at their disposal. Learn how to use repairs in the Gottman Relationship Coach: All About Conflict collection of workshops, video exercises and more.

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Publish Date: February 24, 2022

Last Updated: May 6, 2026

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