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The Research: The Still Face Experiment

Ellie Lisitsa

The Still Face Experiment illustrates the power of emotion coaching and the importance of turning toward your child's bids for connection.

The Research: Linkages Between Parent-Child Interaction and Conversations of Friends Part II

Ellie Lisitsa

Children who were more negative with a peer had fathers who were more intrusive and less engaged, and mothers who used derisive humor more.

The Research: Linkages Between Parent-Child Interaction and Conversations of Friends

Ellie Lisitsa

Children whose parents were disengaged and used derisive humor were more likely to have negative peer play with their friends.

How to Fight Smarter: Soften Your Start-Up

Ellie Lisitsa

Softening the start-up of your arguments and complaints is crucial to resolving relationship conflicts.

Predicting Divorce From The First 3 Minutes of Conflict Discussion

Ellie Lisitsa

Drs. Carrère and Gottman found that the startup of the conflict discussion was key to predicting divorce or marital stability.

Homework Assignment: How Marital Conflict Affects Children

Ellie Lisitsa

Learn what conflict does to kids and how you can show empathy by being the emotion coach your child needs.

The Research: Patterns of Marital Conflict Predict Children’s Internalizing and Externalizing Behaviors Part II

Ellie Lisitsa

It is not the child’s temperament that predicts marital conflict, but rather the type of marital conflict that predicts a child’s temperament.

The Research: Patterns of Marital Conflict Predict Children’s Internalizing and Externalizing Behaviors

Ellie Lisitsa

Parents whose conflicts are characterized by mutual hostility often produce children who are unable to wait their turn.

Physiological Self-Soothing

Ellie Lisitsa

Try something that may feel totally foreign in the heights of your distress: breathe.

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