commitment

This foundational theory of The Gottman Institute gives couples the tools they need to have a healthy secure relationship.

Invalidation is a form of relational trauma which, over time, harms the brain and nervous system, and also results in the disintegration of any healthy bonds of connection, and dissolution of trust in others. Healing requires the slow, ongoing work of diligent growth in character, self-awareness, and love.

What role did the Four Horsemen, relationship phases, flooding, and perpetual problems play in your past relationships?

Commitment doesn’t inoculate us against marriage atrophy. In fact, some would argue that it’s the cause of it. But it’s the thing that keeps us in and has us weather the droughts that are an inevitable part of a long marriage.

Trust and commitment are built in a relationship every time we choose our partner.