level can you give specific examples of authors or thought leaders i hate the word though leaders i can’t think of anything else but like people studies yes studies anything like that to like dig deeper into this concept thinking again absolutely for example john gottman who’s a well known relationship research emphasizes the importance of friendship as the foundation of a healthy relationship as the peel another influential voice talks about balancing the need for security and adventure in relationships and there are differently studies out there that show that couples with a strong friendship and to have longer lasting and more satisfying relationships so it’s definitely a mix of perspectives and this evolving all right you give us some you give us some examples i’ll give you that still a little bit general but i have a new question what do we