Conflict

Excerpted from FIGHT RIGHT copyright © 2024 by Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD and John Gottman, PhD. Used with permission from Harmony Books, an imprint of Random House, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

Overcontrolled traits will lead to problems in your relationships.

Based on the webinar Challenging Behaviors in Therapy: More strategies for working with difficult clients presented by Dr. Dana McNeil, PsyD, LMFT, CGT on September 7, 2023.

In her book, The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, anxiety, and more , Elaine Taylor-Klaus introduces concepts and tools from a coach-approach to parenting. The following excerpt from the first chapter, "This Kid is Really Smart, but..." identifies six key challenge areas that families tend to face when raising children with neurodivergence and/or chronic medical conditions. In the context of the chapter's key strategy to navigate challenges, "Shedding the Shoulds," she offers this conversation about letting go of resentment as a strategy for helping people to learn to operate from their own inner guide.

A good relationship includes having fights.

What’s the difference between stonewalling and the silent treatment?

Here's the key to listening non-defensively.

Compromising doesn’t mean giving up core needs.

By compromising with your loved ones, you’re more likely to find a win-win solution.

If you want to stop arguing all the time, avoid these mistakes