couples and couple conflict and stuff like that that gottman institute they specialize in it and they said that a lack of appreciation can lead to emotional distance and disconnection psychologically men thrive on feeling valued for their efforts and presents just as women do the positive take away is that consistent recognition through words support or small gestures can deep in emotional bonds and create a more fulfilling partnership for both people i agree with this i mean i can i like when i’ve told good job i like when if i do something i can tell you appreciate that i did it it’s words of affirmation right yeah right everybody likes love language like i mean so now how does this make you feel now i feel like this makes sense because i do feel like we could probably show appreciation more to our husbands because i do criticize my husband a lot i think we’ve all established this and know this and i want to say maybe a few weeks ago i had told them you know i’m always telling you to work on this and i just want to say