Relationship Help

The fastest way to better relationships

Join the thousands of couples who have learned The Art & Science of Love by coming to one of our renowned weekend workshops!

• 2 days filled with practical, simple tools and exercises confirm, strengthen or restore your love
• For couples of every type
• Shown to achieve results similar to those of 6 months of marital therapy (though the workshop is not therapy)
• Produces positive results for 86% of those who attend (based on exit surveys)

The Art & Science of Love is offered live in Seattle several times per year with Drs. John & Julie Gottman, or around the country with one of our Senior Certified Gottman Therapists.  Along with the memory of re-connecting and the knowledge that “we can do this!”,  you will take home a box of techniques, cards, tools and tips to support your relationship in your everyday lives.

The live workshop is the single best way to learn this material.  If you can’t attend one, the next best option is to try The Art & Science of Love via our home study DVD box set.

Attention Microsoft Employees: 
If you are a benefits-eligible Microsoft Employee, you may be able to charge all or part of the expense of attending any SEATTLE Gottman Institute Couples Workshop to your CARES/EAP benefit in lieu of direct payment. Participation will count towards eight marital benefit sessions through the CARES program. If this applies to you, please do not register for the couples workshop using this online registration. Instead, please call Linda Wright, Director of Couples Services, at 206-431-5423 to register by phone or email Linda Wright at  lwright@gottman.com

Does it really work? One couple shares their experience…

Couples talk about their Gottman workshop experience

“The seminar we attended in May was fabulous! I honestly didn’t think we would ever be able to get back to the intense feelings that we had when we first were married, but this seminar sure did it for us! What a gift it has been! We have been giving your web address out to all of our friends! Thanks so much!!” (H.S., Great Falls, VA )

What’s behind our success?

In a word: Science!

• Our work is grounded in 40 years of research with more than 3000 couples.

• 86 percent of people who complete our couples workshops make significant progress on conflicts that once felt “gridlocked” These numbers are a big improvement over other forms of marital intervention. For example, acclaimed marriage researcher Neil Jacobson conducted an evaluation of one of the most highly regarded therapy methods and showed that only 35 percent of couples using it improved their marriages.

Another story:

“My husband and I have been married 33 years and over the past few years had been exhibiting destructive relationship behaviors. We attended your couples workshop the first weekend of May in Seattle and I’ll admit I sat with my arms crossed thinking “I hope he’s hearing this.” We bickered through many of the exercises. I left feeling we had failed miserably. But returning home something clicked and we started over at the beginning of the book and repeated the exercises. For the past four weeks we have practiced being relationship masters and I feel like we are soul mates once again. This week my husband was diagnosed with bladder cancer. I am grateful we are entering this challenge from a positive relationship place. Thank you.” (N.W., Sequim, WA)

Private Couples Retreats

If a workshop isn’t your cup of tea, try this option: In the comfort of the Gottmans’ own island home, learn research-based tools for building and maintaining intimacy.  Click here for more info.

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More Testimonials about The Art & Science of Love

I attended the Jan 31-Feb 1 workshop in Seattle and felt compelled to give you some feedback that I was unable to give at the workshop. Thank you so much. My partner and I worked very hard during the weekend and got a tremendous amount of growth out of it. I want to let you know two things I felt were just fantastic. One is the vocabulary you used. We now have ways to talk about issues that are so much more straightforward. You have simplified in both vocabulary and in concept what can become so complicated and sticky. Secondly, I greatly appreciate the realistic view I gained about the reality of a long-term relationship through the examples and stories shared by John and Julie. Even the experts seem to deal with the everyday challenges of responding to each other’s needs. Very helpful in a society filled with Hollywood relationship images. Thank you for your commitment. We will continue to work on our path (with a little help from our Gottman Method Trained Counselor), and will refer others to your weekend workshops. ( L.R., Seattle, WA)

I had put my marriage on cruise control. I had gotten lost and didn’t stop to ask for directions along the way. I thought I could work it out for myself. How different my married life would have been if I could have gone to a workshop like this 20 years ago ! ( R.S., Chicago, IL)

My wife had been asking me to attend this workshop with her for quite some time but I’d resisted, concerned that it’d be “fluffy” or that I’d be expected to participate in potentially embarrassing group exercises. It turns out that the workshop was nothing like what I’d feared. The Gottman method is based solidly on scientific research, which lent great credibility to the workshop for me. Coupled with the Gottmans’ casual approach and great humor, they had me within the first session! My wife and I now have a new set of tools and a new vocabulary to keep us connected and help us effectively deal with conflict. ( T.S., Woodinville, WA)

My husband and I attended the marriage seminar in Seattle at the beginning of the month. We have enjoyed a wonderful relationship in many respects, but have consistently had difficulty managing conflict in a healthy way. We have attended counseling for 2.5 years and have grown in many ways, but were “gridlocked” in this area. We recently hit the bottom and were unsure if we could continue. Our therapist suggested we attend your seminar. My husband and I were both deeply touched by your program. It was, by far, the best money we have ever spent. We learned so much and have begun to implement the techniques we have learned. We are achieving much success and are forevermore grateful. As we learn to master the strategies, we plan to teach our five children how to deal with conflict differently so that it will also transcend the generations. Thank you so very much for your time and effort. It was more meaningful than you will ever know.  (D.M.)