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Discover The Art and Science of Love at our world-renowned weekend workshop for couples presented by Drs. John and Julie Gottman in Seattle, WA.

  • 2 days filled with engaging presentations and experiential activities designed to confirm, strengthen, or restore your love
  • For couples of every age, ability, and sexual orientation
  • Shown to achieve results similar to those of 6 months of marital therapy
  • Produces positive results for 86% of those who attend

Based on over 40 years of research with thousands of couples, The Art and Science of Love workshop will give you new insights and research-based skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a healthy, positive way. Along with the memory of re-connecting and the knowledge that “we can do this,” you will take home a box set of cards, tools, and tips to support your relationship in your everyday lives.


Bunsen-BurnerIn a word: Science! Our curriculum is developed from 40 years of research with more than 3,000 couples. It’s grounded on what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable, not idealistic notions or anecdotal evidence of what marriage ought to be. The workshop produces positive results for 86% of those who attend based on exit surveys, but don’t just take our word for it. Click here to read one couple’s story, “15 Favorite Moments from our Gottman Weekend Workshop.”

To read more testimonials from real couples, click here


This workshop is designed for ALL couples in a committed relationship.  If you have a strong relationship, this workshop will provide you with insights and tools to foster further closeness, friendship, and trust. If your relationship is distressed, this two-day workshop will provide you with a greater understanding of your relationship and a road map for repair. No public discussion or disclosure is involved.  All work is done as a couple and Gottman trained therapists are available to support one-on-one during exercises.

Already attended? Refresh your skills and deepen your understanding of the Gottman Method at The Art and Science of Love 2 advanced workshop for couples.



At the workshop, you’ll learn how to: foster respect, affection, and closeness; build and share a deeper connection with each other; keep conflict discussions calm, break through and resolve conflict gridlock; and strengthen and maintain the gains in your relationship.

Workshop topics include:

  • Learn to recognize the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and what to do if they are attacking your marriage
  • Identify your relationship’s specific strengths and how to build on them
  • Learn about the effects of physiological flooding and how it may affect conflict resolution
  • Use the Fondness and Admiration System to renew respect and care for one another
  • Create an Emotional Bank Account that you can draw upon in times of stress
  • Develop your problem-solving skills, including the 6 skills for effective conflict resolutions
  • Find out how you can make your dreams and aspirations come true for you, your partner, and your relationship


In addition to a greater understanding of how to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your relationship, you will receive a box set, which contains:BBH Products Array

  • 7 Card Decks
    • Love Map
    • Opportunity
    • Open-Ended Questions
    • Rituals of Connection
    • Salsa (Mild, Medium, Hot)
  • 2 Couples Workbooks
  • Repair Checklist
  • Aftermath of a Fight Booklet
  • Sound Relationship House Magnet


Attention Gottman Trainees
All Gottman trained clinicians and educators are now eligible for a $250 discount to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop in Seattle. A personal workshop experience is beneficial for your professional and personal toolkit, and will help you to better integrate Gottman Interventions into your work with couples. Click here for further details.

Attention Microsoft Employees
You are eligible to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop in Seattle with no out-of-pocket expense. Your registration fee is paid for by your EAP plan through Wellspring Family Services. Please call Kendra Han, Assistant Director of Couples Services, at 206-696-8324 or click here for further details.

Military Promotion Code
We are proud to be a partner of the Wounded Warrior Project – it is an honor to support the military and their families. All active-duty military and veterans are eligible to receive a $200 discount to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop using promo code: MILCWS

Breast Cancer Promotion Code
At The Gottman Institute, we recognize the stress of a diagnosis and we want to honor survivors and their partners. For all 2015 workshops presented by Drs. John and Julie Gottman in Seattle, survivors and their partners may receive a $250 discount when registering by using promo code: BCA2015


Continuing Education
The Gottman Institute, in partnership with PESI, now offers up to 12 CE Hours to qualified professionals. CE Hours may be purchased at the workshop for $29.99.

Questions? Please contact us at (206) 523-9042 ext 1 or email us at couples@gottman.com (Workshop questions only, please. We are unable to respond to therapeutic questions via email. Also, please be sure to include your email address in your message.) The live workshop is the single best way to learn this material.  If you can’t attend in person, the next option is to order The Art and Science of Love workshop in a take-home format.



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