Discover the Gottman
Relationship Checkup
Help your therapist help you
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a world-renowned and research-based tool used by therapists or other clinical professionals to better understand a relationship. The deep insight provided by the Checkup enables your therapist to give you science-backed, direct, and detailed support that is specific to your relationship.
Discover the Gottman
Relationship Checkup
Help your therapist help you
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a tool used by therapists or other clinical professionals to better understand a relationship. The insight provided by the Checkup makes it easier for your therapist to give you direct and detailed support that is specific for your relationship.
Why You’ve Been Invited to Take the Checkup
You’ve been invited to complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup because it gives your therapist a clearer, more complete picture of your relationship right from the start.
This proven assessment helps identify what’s going well between you and your partner, and where support is most needed. It’s designed to make your therapy sessions more focused, effective, and tailored to your unique relationship.
Once you and your partner have completed the Checkup separately, your therapist receives a personalized report with clinical insights and will share specific recommendations based on your responses. This means less time gathering background information and more time working on what matters most to you as a couple. You and your partner will each receive your own separate reports as well.
What is the
Gottman Relationship Checkup?
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a completely confidential (only you and your therapist can see your answers), research-based questionnaire that can be taken at any time and in a setting of your choice. The Checkup is designed to assess key aspects of your relationship in five categories:
Friendship and Intimacy
Levels of stress and conflict management skills
Shared rituals, values, and goals in your relationship
Trust and Commitment
“Areas of Concern” covering mental and physical health
Get Started In Three Simple Steps
Accept the invitation and create your profile
Your therapist will begin by inviting you to complete the Checkup via an introductory email. You and your partner will get unique email invites and each will complete a simple registration flow on Gottman Connect to create your own, separate accounts.
Complete the questionnaire
You and your partner each complete and submit your own Checkup questionnaire separately, using unique logins to ensure privacy. Your responses are encrypted and never accessible by your partner. Only your therapist sees your full answers, ensuring a safe space for honest reflection.
Review your results
Once you and your partner both complete the questionnaire, your therapist will review your results and notify you when your questionnaires have been processed and evaluated. Your therapist will receive a detailed report highlighting strengths, challenges, and tailored recommendations to guide your sessions. Based on your therapist’s guidance, you and your partner may also receive your own, separate relationship reports to view.
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is
Proven to Work
Built on over 50 years of scientific research, the Gottman Relationship Checkup is made up of 337 emotionally intelligent questions that go beyond the surface-level to explore the heart of your connection. The Checkup is completely therapist-supported and your clinician uses the results to personalize your journey, whether you’re in therapy or just starting.
The Gottman Method for Couples Therapy
The Gottman Method aims to improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and build a relationship rooted in mutual respect, affection, and understanding. Completing the assessment is a meaningful first step toward improving your relationship. It’s not just a questionnaire, it’s a way to help you and your partner move forward with insight, empathy, and intention.
The Gottman Method
for Couples Therapy
for Couples Therapy
The Gottman Method aims to improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and build a relationship rooted in mutual respect, affection, and understanding. Completing the assessment is a meaningful first step toward improving your relationship. It’s not just a questionnaire, it’s a way to help you and your partner move forward with insight, empathy, and intention.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is The Gottman Relationship Checkup?
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is an online assessment tool created by world-renowned Drs. John and Julie Gottman in collaboration with The Gottman Institute in Seattle, Washington. The assessment is composed of 337 questions and covers topics including friendship, intimacy, conflict, finances, children, trust, commitment, drug and alcohol screenings, and individual issues that can put a relationship at risk.
Where do the questions on the assessment come from? How do we know that answering these questions can actually help our relationship?
Dr. John Gottman is a clinical psychologist who has completed more than 50 years of research on relationships and couples. Dr. Julie Gottman is a clinical psychologist who has extensive experience in private practice and teaching settings. Together, they created this research-based assessment for couples as a method for learning the strengths and challenges of a relationship and subsequently determining a treatment plan.
How long does it take to complete the questionnaire?
The actual time it takes to complete each questionnaire varies based on individual responses, the complexity of relationship dynamics, and the choice to use optional comment areas to provide additional information about the relationship. However, on average, you can expect it will take about an hour to complete the assessment.
If I don’t want to take the test all at once, can I stop taking it and resume later?
Can my partner and I see one another’s answers while I am taking the test?
While taking the assessment, do I have to answer all the questions or can I skip the ones I don’t want to answer?
Will I get a copy of my results?
How do I access The Gottman Relationship Checkup?
A clinician approved to use the Checkup must send you an invitation.
I’m not currently seeing a clinician. Where can I find one?
To search for a clinician trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy near you, please visit the Gottman Referral Network.
Is the Gottman Relationship Checkup LGBTQ+ inclusive?
Yes, the Gottman Relationship Checkup is LGBTQ+ inclusive and has been designed for every couple, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation.
I want to use The Gottman Relationship Checkup to assess my relationship without going to a clinician. Can I do this?
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is designed to be used with a therapist in a professional setting. If you are not working with a clinician or not ready to see a therapist, please explore additional relationship resources here.