Discover the Gottman
Relationship Checkup
Help your therapist help you
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a tool used by therapists or other clinical professionals to better understand a relationship. The insight provided by the Checkup makes it easier for your therapist to give you direct and detailed support that is specific for your relationship.
Discover the Gottman
Relationship Checkup
Help your therapist help you
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a tool used by therapists or other clinical professionals to better understand a relationship. The insight provided by the Checkup makes it easier for your therapist to give you direct and detailed support that is specific for your relationship.
Why You’ve Been Invited to
Take the Checkup
Why You’ve Been Invited to Take the Checkup
You’ve been asked to complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup because it gives your therapist a clearer, more complete picture of your relationship right from the start.
This research-based assessment helps identify what’s going well between you and your partner, and where support is most needed. It’s designed to make your therapy sessions more focused, effective, and tailored to your unique relationship.
Once you and your partner have completed the checkup separately, your therapist receives a personalized report with clinical insights and specific recommendations based on your responses. This means less time gathering background information and more time working on what matters most to you as a couple. You and your partner will each receive your own separate reports as well.
What is the
Gottman Relationship Checkup?
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a confidential (only you and your therapist can see your answers), research-based questionnaire that can be taken at any time and in a setting of your choice. The Checkup is designed to assess key aspects of your relationship in five categories. It covers:
Friendship and intimacy
Levels of stress and conflict management skills
Shared rituals, values, and goals in your relationship
Trust and commitment
“Areas of concern” covering mental and physical health.
Get Started In Three Simple Steps
Accept the invitation and create your profile
Your Gottman therapist will begin by inviting you as a couple to complete the Checkup via an introductory email.
Both you and your partner will complete a simple registration flow to create your own, separate Gottman accounts.
Complete the questionnaire
Each partner completes and submits the Gottman questionnaire using unique logins to ensure privacy. You and your partner complete the online Checkup separately. Your responses are encrypted and never accessible by your partner. Only your therapist sees your full answers, ensuring a safe space for honest reflection.
View your results
Once you and your partner both complete the questionnaire, your clinical professional will review your results and notify you when your questionnaires have been processed and evaluated. Your therapist receives a detailed report highlighting strengths, challenges, and tailored recommendations to guide your sessions. You and your partner will also get your own, separate relationship reports to view.
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is
Proven to Work
Built on over 50 years of scientific research, the Gottman Relationship Checkup is made up of 337 emotionally intelligent questions that go beyond the surface-level to explore the heart of your connection. The Checkup is completely therapist-supported and your clinician uses the results to personalize your journey, whether you’re in therapy or just starting.
The Gottman Method for Couples Therapy
The Gottman Method aims to improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and build a relationship rooted in mutual respect, affection, and understanding. Completing the assessment is a meaningful first step toward improving your relationship. It’s not just a questionnaire, it’s a way to help you and your partner move forward with insight, empathy, and intention.
The Gottman Method
for Couples Therapy
for Couples Therapy
The Gottman Method aims to improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and build a relationship rooted in mutual respect, affection, and understanding. Completing the assessment is a meaningful first step toward improving your relationship. It’s not just a questionnaire, it’s a way to help you and your partner move forward with insight, empathy, and intention.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is The Gottman Relationship Checkup?
Where do the questions on the assessment come from? How do we know that answering these questions can actually help our relationship?
How long does it take to complete the assessment?
If I don’t want to take the test all at once, can I stop taking it and resume later?
Can my partner and I see one another’s answers while I am taking the test?
While taking the assessment, do I have to answer all the questions or can I skip the ones I don’t want to answer?
Will I get a copy of my results?
How do I access The Gottman Relationship Checkup?
I’m not currently seeing a clinician. Where can I find one?
To search for a clinician trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy near you, please visit the Gottman Referral Network.
I want to use The Gottman Relationship Checkup to assess my relationship without going to a clinician. Can I do this?
Is the Gottman Relationship Checkup LGBTQ+ inclusive?
Yes, the Gottman Relationship Checkup is LGBTQ+ inclusive and has been designed for every couple, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation.