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Lessons in Love for Singles

Lessons in Love for Singles

For singles looking to learn the keys to building successful relationships

About Lessons in Love for Singles

Single and looking to build a happy, lasting partnership?  Learn essential skills to make your next relationship a successful one with this new singles workshop. Based on Dr. John Gottman’s New York Times bestseller, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, this workshop has adapted the proven Seven Principles to help singles learn the key to building successful romantic relationships. You can take this workshop live virtually with The Gottman Institute or with a Lessons in Love Leader in your community!

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This workshop is designed to help singles learn the key to building successful relationships, all based on Dr. John Gottman’s New York Times bestseller, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Although originally written for married couples, the Seven Principles have become universal, helping romantic partners of all stages strengthen their connections. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach proven methods to manage conflict, create common ground, and achieve greater levels of connection and intimacy.

Using renowned Gottman concepts proven to make relationships happy and successful, you will discover how to set the foundation for a healthy lifelong partnership.

  • Improve your communication skills
  • Learn how to effectively manage conflict
  • Gain essential tools to approach dating and relationship-building

This workshop is for single individuals looking to build a happy, healthy romantic relationship.

All work is done in a psycho-educational format to support discussion, encourage small and large group exercises, and spark personal reflection. 

We do not live in Washington but we would like to attend a singles workshop in our area. Are workshops offered in other states or online?

Yes. While the Lessons in Love Singles Workshops are hosted by The Gottman Institute which is based in Seattle, Leaders are now around the world 

You can learn more about live in-person or virtual parent workshops in your area on our Singles Events Page.

Please check with your Lessons in Love Leader and/or event organizer directly to verify their scholarship or discount opportunities.

You may sign up for the Lessons in Love Leader Training to host your own Singles Workshop in your community.

The Lessons in Love Singles Workshop is a psycho-educational course rather than group therapy. Lessons in Love Leaders are available to answer questions and clarify exercises, but they will not be providing therapeutic assistance.

There are small and large group exercises that we highly recommend to participate in, but it is not required.

The Lessons in Love Singles materials are provided in English. The Gottman Institute is not currently accepting requests to translate the Lessons in Love materials into additional languages.

No! This singles workshop does have a dating section, but much of the material is applicable to family dynamics, friendships, work-based relationships, and others can learn helpful information from this course.

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Learn essential skills to make your next relationship a successful one with this new singles workshop

Based on Dr. John Gottman’s New York Times bestseller, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, this workshop has adapted the proven Seven Principles to help singles learn the key to building successful romantic relationships

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Do you feel stuck or need someone to talk to?

Will I ever find the right person?

Yes! But not because there’s one perfect match out there. Gottman research shows that the “right person” is someone you choose by building trust, friendship, and connection regularly. Healthy relationships aren’t about luck, they’re about turning towards each other, managing conflict, and choosing your love every day.

It’s natural to want certain qualities in a partner, but lasting love depends less on checking every box and more on how you connect, communicate, and handle conflict together. Reasonable standards focus on respect, trust, and emotional safety first. Beyond that, it’s about building a strong bond, not finding perfection.

Self-growth and relationships go hand in hand. Investing in yourself makes you a stronger future partner. You don’t have to pick one over the other. Working on your wellbeing while staying open to connection can lead to lasting love.

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The Seven Principles for Singles

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Seattle, Washington

August 15, 2020
Presented by Stacy Hubbard, LMFT and David Penner, Ph.D.

With more than a million copies sold, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work continues to strengthen relationships worldwide. Although originally written for married couples, the Seven Principles have shown to be universal, whether in romantic relationships or in relationships with family, co-workers, or friends.

Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach proven approaches for managing conflict, creating common ground, and achieving greater levels of connection. 

Workshop Description

Based on Dr. John Gottman’s New York Times bestseller, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, this workshop teaches single people how to have a successful committed relationship.

Join us for a fun and informative day of learning! You can expect engaging lectures and video clips, role plays and group exercises, and lots of interaction with instructors.

What will I learn?

You will learn how to cultivate friendship, fondness, and admiration as the basis of all happy relationships. You will learn the phases of a relationship, as well as how to know who you can trust. You will learn how to understand the role of constructive conflict in healthy relationships. You will learn how to focus on life dreams and shared meaning as a route to fulfilling relationships and a fulfilling life for yourself.

Who is this workshop for?

This workshop is for single people of any age who want to have a meaningful relationship, including people who are trying to heal from negative past relationships. Attendees may want to understand what a healthy relationship looks like, or they may be ready for commitment after a long time of being single. Previous workshops have included attendees who are widowers, divorced, those who have never been married, and those who are entering a new relationship.

What is included in the price?

In addition to a greater understanding of how to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your future relationship, you will receive the brand new Seven Principles Singles Guide and a set of our popular Love Map and Open-Ended Questions card decks (pictured).

Workshop Reviews

Here’s what real singles have said about the workshop.

“This was amazing! Thank you. I am convinced that choosing who I will start a family with is the most important decision I will ever make, and this workshop has given me the tools to make a better decision and then work on maintaining a successful marriage.”

– Anonymous evaluation from Seattle, WA

“Thank you for creating this. I’ve been looking for something to guide me toward creating a healthy relationship for a while.”

– Anonymous evaluation from Seattle, WA

“I thought both Stacy and Dave were very personal and giving that element helped me feel like they are like me.”

– Anonymous evaluation from Seattle, WA

“This workshop is worth its weight in gold!”

– Anonymous evaluation from Seattle, WA 

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this a meet-up event for singles?

No, this is not a singles meet-up event. It’s a workshop designed to teach singles relationship skills.

This workshop is not intended for people already in a relationship. We recommend attending a Seven Principles workshop for couples or Art and Science of Love workshop in your area instead.

There will be lectures, but it’s also interactive and designed to be a fun and engaging experience! There will be role-plays by the presenters, video clips, and both large and small group exercises.

No, this is not group therapy. There will be group discussions, but participation is optional and we encourage you only to share what you are comfortable with sharing.

The Man’s Guide to Women

The Man’s Guide to Women

Now available for purchase:

The great question that has never been answered and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, is
“What does a woman want?”
– Sigmund Freud

Stephen Hawking, the legendary astrophysicist and a man who has solved some of the most complex mysteries of the universe, was recently asked what it is he thinks about the most. Which confounds the genius of Hawking? “Women,” he said. “They are a complete mystery.” Based on 40 years of research data from world-renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman’s famous “Love Lab,” The Man’s Guide to Women offers the first science-based answer to the question: What do women really want in a man?

Results from Dr. Gottman’s research prove a simple truth: men make or break heterosexual relationships. This does not mean that a woman doesn’t need to do her part, but the data proves that a man’s actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship succeeds or fails, which is ironic since most relationship books are written for women.

This isn’t a how-to guide for getting women into bed. The goal of this book is to help men succeed with women for a lifetime. Research studies show that men who are in a happy, healthy relationship make more money, have more sex, live longer, suffer less chronic illness, and show less cognitive impairment in their later years.

Every woman is different, and that’s why every woman is so fascinating. This book will help you to understand how to dial out the static and confusion that so frequently becomes the backdrop to a relationship. Science has shown what matters most to women and what women want most from a man. In The Man’s Guide to Women, the authors show men the secrets of attraction, of dating, of mating, of day-to-day living, and how to build a solid, satisfying long-term relationship with a woman. They map her body and decode her body language. Any man who wants to get closer to a woman should read this book.

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Here’s What People are Saying

This should be required reading for men who are both baffled by and interested in women.“- Publishers Weekly

With its direct insight, humor, and frank information, this book is a great reference guide and primer for those who need a bit of insight and help into understanding our companions in life.“- Amazon Customer Review

This is an excellent book for men who want to understand women better and are interested in a lasting and fulfilling relationship.“- Goodreads Customer Review

I wish I had this book decades ago. It would have saved me from being in some of the bad relationships I was in, and would have made the good ones better. I could not possibly recommend any book for men more highly than this one.“- Amazon Customer Review

As a counsellor and presenter of marriage seminars on a regular basis I highly recommend this book. Practical, with good life application backed by science and research. It is a book accessible to the professional and the casual reader.“- Amazon Customer Review

Should be the first book men read about dating and having a relationship with women. This book gives you an excellent overview about what makes women happier in a relationship. “- Amazon Customer Review

About the Authors

John Gottman, Ph.D. and Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D. are researchers and clinical psychologists. Together, they work side-by-side to research relationships, provide therapy and workshops for couples, train therapists, write bestselling books, and strengthen couple relationships worldwide. Doug and Rachel are the co-authors of international, bestselling books about intimacy and passion, and Rachel is a physician who uses her clinical expertise to help many women heal their hearts as well as their bodies in her medical practice.  

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