Emotion Coaching

Discover how to use emotions as opportunities for connection and teaching with your child.

The Research: The Still Face Experiment

Dr. Ellie Wilde

The Still Face Experiment illustrates the power of emotion coaching and the importance of turning toward your child's bids for connection.

Homework Assignment: How Marital Conflict Affects Children

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Learn what conflict does to kids and how you can show empathy by being the emotion coach your child needs.

Emotion Coaching Step 5: Helping the Child Problem Solve and Setting Limits

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Emotion coaching not only teaches children how to manage big feelings, but it also helps them solve problems on their own.

Emotion Coaching Step 4: Helping Your Child to Find Words For Their Emotions

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Emotion Coaching system is one in which you have the opportunity to help your child through difficult moments that is astoundingly useful for them.

Emotion Coaching Step 3: Treating a Child’s Feelings with Empathetic Listening and Validation

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Drs. John and Julie Gottman suggest a combination of attentiveness, offerings of simple observations, and validation of your child's emotions in difficult moments.

Emotion Coaching Step 2: Seeing Expressions of Emotion as Opportunities for Teaching and Intimacy

Dr. Ellie Wilde

You can work through tough emotions instead of trying to "fix" them.

Emotion Coaching Step 1: Empathy

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Use Emotion Coaching and empathy in your conversations with your child, and see the differences it makes in difficult moments.

An Introduction to Emotion Coaching

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Learn how to help your children navigate their feelings through being an emotion coaching parent.

Parenting as Your Kids Grow Up

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Managing conflict well and being your child's emotion coach are just a few effective parenting tips from the Gottmans.

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