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Can a Relationship Have Too Much Negativity?

Learn the perfect ratio of positive to negative in your interactions as a couple
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All couples have conflict. In fact, healthy individuals use their disagreements to learn more about each other. That said, there is a tipping point where bickering and criticism can take over and sink your relationship. So, how do you know how much is too much?

Watch this video of Dr. John Gottman explaining the ratio of positivity to negativity that helps relationships thrive.

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