What to Do After an Affair (part 1)

After coming clean about an affair, Brandon and his partner learn how to rebuild their relationship.

Reviving Trust After an Affair (part 2)

Employing Gottman’s Trust Revival Method in the aftermath of an affair.

5 Ways to Be Fully Present on a Date

The more you can be present in the current experience of your date, the more you’ll enjoy yourself. The more you enjoy yourself, the more enjoyable you are to be around. And if you both enjoy yourselves, that is a “successful” date in my book.

Top 10 Gottman Relationship Blog Posts of 2019

In 2019, we took a look at the things that challenge relationships, and ways to ultimately make the relationships we choose stronger.

I’m a Therapist, But I’m Also a Human

Under the guise of “healthy communication,” I was actually destroying my own relationship.

Discovering Dr. Gottman as a Conflict Resolution Professional

When you are trying to get your point across, it is not helpful to scream louder or longer. That is a waste of time and energy—time and energy better spent reviewing the perspectives of both parties involved.

Stepping Back to Save My Stepfamily

All of the constructs I grew up with and believed I would carry on in my own family had to be thrown out the window. As much as I would like one, there is no guide on how to be a stepfamily—we are all too different.

How to Prepare Your Relationship for Military Deployment

Geographic separation, whether it is for 6 weeks, 6 months, or longer, is inevitably difficult. The key to a successful deployment for any couple is to learn together all you can in order to prepare for your time apart.

Outlawed Grief

Allow grief, in your own heart and in the hearts of others. Don’t send it underground.

I Met The Woman of My Dreams, She Lives 2,400 Miles Away

Thanks to a combination of sobriety, introspection, therapy, and Kate’s support, I’m feeling more comfortable showing up authentically both inside and outside this relationship.

I Found Myself When I Lost My Ideology

Everything I thought I knew about myself, my faith, my friendships, and my family was put on tilt when I decided to be true to who I am and pursue that woman.

Betrayal Trauma in Addiction

Betrayal trauma hits the foundation of the person and the relationship—trust.

My Marriage Beyond the Binary

Sometimes, we are a hetero couple, sometimes a gay couple, but most of the time we live outside of the established labels altogether.

Weathering the Winter of Our Marriage

Commitment doesn’t inoculate us against marriage atrophy. In fact, some would argue that it’s the cause of it. But it’s the thing that keeps us in and has us weather the droughts that are an inevitable part of a long marriage.

I Fell in Love With My Best Friend

I found myself feeling like there was a different kind of connection forming, beyond best friendship. Could this be?

Do Trial Separations Work?

Can a relationship benefit from taking a break? It all comes down to outlining clear intentions, communication, and goals.

Wake Up Before Your Wake-Up Call

To wake up to the messages life is sending us and avoid crisis, we have to be tuned in to what’s happening right in front of us and not numb out.

I’d Sworn off Dating “Allies,” Until I Met a Real One

He may never understand exactly how I’m feeling or what it’s like to be in my shoes, but he knows when to speak up and when to stay quiet—to listen and learn from me and others with different experiences.

The Biggest Gripes About Modern Dating

Dating coach Cora Boyd helps us navigate the perils of modern dating in a meaningful way.