Love Lab
The All-New, Legendary Love Lab
From it’s historic origins in 1986 at a research lab at the University of Washington, the world-renowned Love Lab, founded by Dr. John Gottman, has developed the most powerful relationship assessment available today. This evidence-based assessment is designed to help clinicians diagnose the most complex relationship challenges.
After putting thousands of marriages under a microscope, we now understand the science of relationships. Through groundbreaking mathematical models integrating nonlinear differential equations, we can reliably predict and chart the future course of a relationship. More importantly, we are now able to provide data-driven suggestions for positively adjusting the course of a couple’s life together.
Pursuing the Gottman mission
Pursuing the Gottman mission of democratizing global access to even the most powerful therapeutic tools, in 2019, Affective Software, in partnership with the Gottman Institute, leveraged the latest in cutting-edge technological advancements to bring the Love Lab into the 21st century. With the release of Gottman Connect, an easy-to-use online platform, clinicians and couples all around the world can now leverage the power of the Gottman Love Lab.
“Since the 1980s, Gottman has brought more than three thousand married couples – just like Bill and Sue – into that small room in his “Love Lab” at the University of Washington campus. Can a marriage really be understood in one sitting? Yes it can, and so can lots of other seemingly complex situations. What Gottman has done is to show us how.”
Malcolm Gladwell
6x NYT Best-Selling Author, Time’s 100 Most Influential People
The Love Lab on Gottman Connect
The prestigious Gottman Love Lab is now available via the Gottman Connect telehealth portal!
Pursuing the Gottman mission of democratizing global access to even the most powerful therapeutic tools, Affective Software, in partnership with The Gottman Institute, leveraged the latest in cutting-edge technological advancements to bring the Love Lab into the 21st century. With the release of the online Gottman Connect platform, clinicians all around the world can now leverage the power of the Gottman Love Lab with their couples.
This scientific evaluation, more powerful than ever, is the most comprehensive relationship assessment available and can help pinpoint the areas in which couples can achieve the greatest growth. Couples complete a clinical questionnaire and a video evaluation to receive a scientific x-ray into their relationship. This level of assessment is not available anywhere else.
Benefits to your practice
- Expand and differentiate your practice by leveraging the proven Gottman Love Lab brand.
- Help couples heal faster with deeper, video-based analyses of emotion, attunement, flooding, physiology, and more.
- Use the most advanced available clinical therapy tool in the world.
- Provide clear results and powerful insights with automatically generated analysis reports for even more effective therapy.
A Powerful Assessment in 4 Simple Steps
Register and invite your couples to the Gottman questionnaire
Record two conversational videos
After each partner has submitted their questionnaire on Gottman Connect, each couple will need to record two videos together: an “events” conversation, and a “conflict” conversation.
Since each clinical practice is different, there are various ways of submitting these videos for analysis. Couples can record these videos on their own, or together with their clinician. Clear instructions are available once you login.
Guide your couple in rating each video
Once both videos are recorded and uploaded, each partner will need to log in to Gottman Connect and watch their recordings, using an easy-to-use dial to rate how they felt during the recorded conversations. According to Gottman’s research, this self-rating is a critical step for the evaluation process.
Complete the clinician’s checklist
After your couple has completed their Gottman questionnaires, recorded, and rated their two videos, you will need to answer a brief checklist based on your professional observations of this couple. This is the final step in the evaluation process – once you submit your “Clinician’s Checklist”, the virtual Love Lab will automatically calculate and generate several reports, providing you and your couple deep insights into their relationship.
Additional instructions and report walkthroughs are available upon login.
A Powerful Assessment
in 4 Simple Steps
Register and invite your couples to the Gottman questionnaire
If you haven’t already, start by signing up as a clinician on Gottman Connect via a simple, free registration process. Once logged-in, easily invite your couple to register using an automated process. Each partner gets their own, private login to Gottman Connect and will need to complete their clinicial questionnaires on their own.
Record two conversational videos
After each partner has submitted their questionnaire on Gottman Connect, each couple will need to record two videos together: an “events” conversation, and a “conflict” conversation.
Since each clinical practice is different, there are various ways of submitting these videos for analysis. Couples can record these videos on their own, or together with their clinician. Clear instructions are available once you login.
Guide your couple in rating each video
Once both videos are recorded and uploaded, each partner will need to log in to Gottman Connect and watch their recordings, using an easy-to-use dial to rate how they felt during the recorded conversations. According to Gottman’s research, this self-rating is a critical step for the evaluation process.
Complete the clinician’s checklist
After your couple has completed their Gottman questionnaires, recorded, and rated their two videos, you will need to answer a brief checklist based on your professional observations of this couple. This is the final step in the evaluation process – once you submit your “Clinician’s Checklist”, the virtual Love Lab will automatically calculate and generate several reports, providing you and your couple deep insights into their relationship.
Additional instructions and report walkthroughs are available upon login.
A Brief History
of the Gottman Love Lab
The Gottman Love Lab is the world’s original couples laboratory, first opened in 1986 at the University of Washington by Dr. John Gottman. Watch this brief documentary to explore its 40-year history, and learn below about how the Love Lab has been reimagined by The Gottman Institute for the high-tech modern age.
A Brief History of the Gottman Love Lab
Research Begins
Dr. John Gottman begins systematically observing couples in his first lab at the University of Illinois in the 1970s
"The Love Lab"
In 1986, Gottman (right) and Robert Levenson (left) build an apartment laboratory at the University of Washington dubbed the “Love Lab” by the media.
Founding TGI
In 1996, Drs. Julie and John Gottman co-founded The Gottman Institute to bring this research to the world.
Did you know?
Over many years, Gottman and Levenson observed hundreds of couples and noted their facial expressions, heart rates, blood pressure, skin conductivity, and the words they used in conversation with their partners.
They discovered that low-risk couples maintain a “magic ratio” of five positive interactions to every one negative interaction during conflict.
First Research Director
In 2015, Drs. John and Julie Gottman asked Carrie Cole, a Master Trainer for the Gottman Institute, to be the Institute’s first Research Director.
The Lab at TGI
In February of 2018, the Gottman Love Lab was re-imagined by The Gottman Institute in the heart of downtown Seattle and opened its doors to the public for the first time.
The All-New Gottman Love Lab
With breakthroughs achieved by expert mathematician and optimization specialist Dr. Vladimir Brayman and his team, ASI launches an all-new virtual Love Lab, available globally online for the first time in history.
In the News
The Love Lab has been notably profiled in Blink, Malcolm Gladwell’s NYT best seller, and has been featured by Dateline NBC, BBC, The Anderson Cooper Show, TIME Magazine, and The Atlantic.
Research Begins
Dr. John Gottman begins systematically observing couples in his first lab at the University of Illinois in the 1970s
"The Love Lab"
Founding TGI
In 1996, Drs. Julie and John Gottman co-founded The Gottman Institute to bring this research to the world.
Did you know?...
Over many years, Gottman and Levenson observed hundreds of couples and noted their facial expressions, heart rates, blood pressure, skin conductivity, and the words they used in conversation with their partners.
They discovered that low-risk couples maintain a “magic ratio” of five positive interactions to every one negative interaction during conflict..
First Research Director
In 2015, Drs. John and Julie Gottman asked Carrie Cole, a Master Trainer for the Gottman Institute, to be the Institute’s first Research Director.
The Lab at TGI
In February of 2018, the Gottman Love Lab was re-imagined by The Gottman Institute in the heart of downtown Seattle and opened its doors to the public for the first time.
The All-New Gottman Love Lab
With breakthroughs achieved by expert mathematician and optimization specialist Dr. Vladimir Brayman and his team, ASI launches an all-new virtual Love Lab, available globally online for the first time in history.
In the News
The Love Lab has been notably profiled in Blink, Malcolm Gladwell’s NYT best seller, and has been featured by Dateline NBC, BBC, The Anderson Cooper Show, TIME Magazine, and The Atlantic.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the Gottman Love Lab?
The Gottman Love Lab is an evidence-based clinical assessment used for couples therapy that helps identify and remedy complex relationship challenges between partners. This tool is designed to help clinicians upgrade their practice and offer a more effective therapy for longer lasting results.
How do I sign up for the Gottman Love Lab?
The Gottman Love Lab is now available on Gottman Connect. To apply, please submit your information on the wait list above. Due to significant demand, after applications are reviewed, access and training will be granted on a rolling basis.
What are the training requirements for using the Gottman Love lab in my practice?
Clinicians that are currently approved to utilize the Gottman Love Lab are well trained and familiar with practicing the Gottman Method in their therapy and are comfortable using technology aids in their practices.
Where can I get more resources for getting started with the Gottman Love Lab?
To learn more, start by applying for the Love Lab via the waiting list. We also recommend registering for Gottman Connect to begin using the Gottman Relationship Checkup with your clients. Once approved for the Love Lab, you will have access to training videos, tutorials, and other community resources.
Where is the original lab today?
The original physical lab has evolved and is now located in downtown Seattle! In partnership with the Center for Relationship Wellness, founded by Certified Gottman Therapists Don and Carrie Cole, the physical Gottman Love Lab still offers private Marathon Couples Therapy. Couples that participate in Marathon Couples Therapy receive an advanced scientific evaluation of their relationship.
This comprehensive relationship assessment will pinpoint the areas in which you can achieve the greatest growth so you can move forward to a place of strength, reconnection, and hope. Click here to find out more.
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Love Lab with your clients?
Are you a professional interested in using the Love Lab with your clients?
Relationship Builder for Professionals
The Gottman Relationship
Builder For Professionals
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Empower your clients with a set of science-backed, clinically-proven interventions in the form of the Gottman Relationship Builder.
Integrating your unique expertise with access to a full complement of Gottman Therapy copyrighted content, the Gottman Relationship Builder provides professionals like you a powerful tool for more effective couples therapy.
You and your clients receive lifetime access to the entire Gottman module library.
First couple free.
Reduced price of $149.00 per couple with fixed 70% discount.
The Gottman Relationship Builder for Professionals
Making it Easier for You to Help Couples
Empower your clients with a set of science-backed, clinically-proven interventions in the form of the Gottman Relationship Builder.
Integrating your unique expertise with access to a full complement of Gottman Therapy copyrighted content, the Gottman Relationship Builder provides professionals like you a powerful tool for more effective couples therapy.
You and your clients receive lifetime access to the entire Gottman module library.
First couple free.
Reduced price of $149.00 per couple with fixed 70% discount.
Built to Support
The Work You Do
Built to Support
The Work You Do
Couples teletherapy is complex; you’re managing two clients, one relationship, and a screen between you. But what happens after the session ends?
The Gottman Relationship Builder bridges the gap and takes your teletherapy to the next level. Combining the power of clinical insight with interactive, easy-to-use Gottman Couples Therapy modules you connect your clients with actual Gottman demonstrations, powerful exercises, and more. You can also assign couples personalized modules and track their progress at the touch of a button. This powerful tool helps clients practice powerful Gottman Method concepts that they can go back to long after a session is over.
Therapy That Lasts
Assign with ease
Control what Gottman modules your couple works on and when with a simple-to-use prescription feature.
Prevent relapse
Use the Builder to reinforce skills and sustain connection.
Track progress
Personalize your therapy
Send personalized instructions to your couples with each assignment, helping guide them from the comfort of your online portal.
Assign with ease
Control what Gottman modules your couple works on and when with a simple-to-use prescription feature.
Prevent relapse
Use the Builder to reinforce skills and sustain connection.
Track progress
Personalize your therapy
Send personalized instructions to your couples with each assignment, helping guide them from the comfort of your online portal.
Tools for
Better Therapy
Tools for Better Therapy
With unrestricted access to the full Gottman module library, the Gottman Relationship Builder includes:
Personalized assignments and progress tracking
Lifetime access to all module materials at a savings of over 70% off of complete Gottman modules price
Whether you’re onboarding new couples, scaling down therapy, or enhancing communication between sessions, the Gottman Relationship Builder helps you deliver lasting results.
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Exercises
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Sample Exercise
This preview shows one partner’s instructions for the “Dream Catcher” exercise, intended to help couples tackle gridlocked problems.
- Choose a perpetually gridlocked problem to work on before you do this exercise from the Perpetual Problems and Gridlock section’s Exercise.
- Decide who will be the Dream Catcher and who will be the Dream Speaker—later you will switch roles.
When you are the Dream Catcher, all you have to do is read aloud each of the following questions one by one, in the order in which they are written. After you ask a question, the Dream Speaker will do their best to answer it. Be sure to give your partner plenty of time to do so.
Also, it’s important that you not bring up your position on the issue or challenge the speaker’s answer when you are the listener. Just proceed reading aloud each question and listening to your partner’s answers until all the questions have been asked. If you like, you may ask follow-up questions if you are confused by one of your partner’s answers. But be sure your question is only for clarification.
Afterward, it will be time to trade roles.
Here are the questions for the dream catcher to ask:
- Do you have any core beliefs, ethics, or values that are part of your position on this issue?
- Is there a story behind this for you, or does this relate to your background or childhood history in some way?
- Tell me why this is so important to you.
- What feelings do you have about this issue?
- What would be your ideal dream here?
- Is there a deeper purpose or goal in this for you?
Hopefully, you now understand each other’s positions on your issue more fully. It’s a great time now or next time to work together on creating a compromise for your issue.
Get Started In Three Simple Steps
Sign up and activate the Relationship Builder
If you haven’t already, start with the free Gottman registration process.
Once approved, the next step is to activate the Builder for your account from your dashboard. For the fixed discount of $149.00, you can purchase the Gottman Builder to use it with your clients. With your first purchase, you will receive access to the entire Gottman module library, as well as one free credit to use with your first couple. This way, you’ll have access to the modules before you pick which ones to assign to your couples.
Invite your couples
To get started inviting your couples, simply provide their names and contact information. If a couple is already using Gottman tools like the Gottman Relationship Checkup, you can begin using the Builder with them by selecting the “Activate” button on their existing record.
Your first couple will be free to invite, so you can use the available credit on your account.
Build away!
Once invited, each partner will receive their own personal invitation via email to complete their profile and login. Once logged-in, they will be able to see specific assignments sent their way and will also be able to access all Gottman modules.
You can prescribe and personalize any module, track progress, send automated reminders, and more. Either from home or in session.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the Gottman Relationship Builder?
Who is the Gottman Relationship Builder for?
How do I tell my clients about the Gottman Relationship Builder? How do they use it?
Do my clients get to keep the Gottman modules I prescribe?
How do I enable the Gottman Builder on my account?
How much does the Gottman Builder cost?
What are Gottman Relationship Builder modules?
How do I know which modules to assign my clients?
Can I use the Builder if I don't know the Gottman Method?
Does the Gottman Relationship Builder only work with new couples, or can I use it with existing couples?
Does the Relationship Builder work with Gottman assessments?
When should I offer the Gottman Builder to my clients and how should I use it?
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Psychometrics for the Relationship Checkup
Psychometrics
for the Relationship Checkup
Psychometrics
for the Relationship Checkup
Psychometrics
for the Relationship Checkup
The Gottman Relationship Checkup measures specific strengths and challenges that couples face in their relationship and in their individual lives. Dr. Gottman’s lab began designing many of these assessment questionnaires in 1980 and it has taken decades of diligent research to harness this knowledge into a streamlined assessment tool.
Before this tool was built, Dr. Gottman needed to know that The Sound Relationship House questionnaires, which are included in the Gottman Relationship Checkup, accurately measure what they claim to.
For example, if there is a challenge in Fondness and Admiration for one partner but not the other, he needed to be confident that we would actually see less respect and more contempt in a SPAFF coding of the couple’s Conflict Interaction and/or a Buehlman Coding of the couple’s Oral History Interview. He was delighted to report that this was, indeed, the case.
Relationship Checkup Questionnaire
The Gottman Relationship Checkup contains several additional questionnaires, some of which are in the process of being tested and validated. Below is a chart, with a list of the questionnaires used in the Gottman Relationship Checkup, which show whether cutoff scores are based on psychometric data or on clinical experience while normative data is being collected. Cutoff scores may change as new data is collected. An asterisk indicates that the questionnaire is a Gottman Sound Relationship House scale. Every questionnaire needs to be interpreted in the context of all the other information gained during the assessment process.
Cut off scores are based on:
Subsection
Psychometric Data
Clinical experinece
Global Relationship Satisfaction Inventory
Weiss-Cerreto Relationship Status Inventory
* Love Maps
* Fondness and Admiration System
* Turning Towards or Away
Satisfaction with Passion and Romance in Your Relationship
Satisfaction with the Quality of Your Sex Life
Satisfaction with the Frequency of Sex in Your Relationship
* Emotional Disengagement and Loneliness
The Detour Scales Subsection
Chaos and Control
Trust in the Relationship
Commitment
Meta-Emotions
The Conflict Scales Subsection
* Harsh Startup
* The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
* Flooding
* Accepting Influence
* Compromise
* Negative Sentiment Override
* Repair Attempts
My Family History
Areas Scale One: Emotional Connection
Areas Scale Two: Stress
Areas Scale Three: Relatives and Extended Family
Areas Scale Four: Jealousy
Areas Scale Five: Emotional or Sexual Affairs
Areas Scale Six: Basic Values and Goals
Areas Scale Seven: Housework and Childcare
Areas Scale Eight: Financial Issues
Areas Scale Nine: Having Fun Together
Areas Scale Ten: Spirituality, Religion, Ethics
Areas Scale Eleven: Children
Areas Scale Twelve: Distressing Events
*Gridlock On Perpetual Issues
Shared Meaning Subsection
*Rituals of Connection
*Shared Meaning – Roles in Life
*Shared Meaning – Goals
*Shared Meaning – Symbols
Individual Areas of Concern Subsection
Drug & Alcohol Abuse
Drug & Alcohol Frequency Screening
Suicide Potential
Domestic Violence Situational
Domestic Violence Characterological
Social Isolation
Degradation and Humiliation
Sexual Coercion
Property Damage
Somatization
Obsessive-Compulsive
Interpersonal Sensitivity
Depression
Anxiety
Anger-Hostility
Phobic Anxiety
Paranoid Ideation
Psychoticism
Poor Appetite
Trouble Falling Asleep
Awakening Early Morning
Restless or Disturbed Sleep
Thoughts of Death or Dying
Overeating
Feelings of Guilt
* Gottman Sound Relationship House scales. Psychometric properties are available at johngottman.net.
Psychometric properties may be found in the following references:
- Connor JP, Grier M, Feeney GF, Young RM. (2007). The validity of the Brief Michigan Alcohol Screening Test (bMAST) as a problem drinking severity measure. J Stud Alcohol Drugs, 68(5), 771-79
- Derogatis LR, Lipman RS, Covi L. (1973). SCL-90: an outpatient psychiatric rating scale–preliminary report. Psychopharmacology Bulletin, 9(1), 13-28.
- Gottman, John. The reliability and validity of the sound relationship house questionnaires. Unpublished document.
- Whiting, J.B. & Crane, D.R. (2003). Distress and Divorce: Establishing Cutoff Scores for the Marital Status Inventory. Contemporary Family Therapy, 25(2), 195 – 205.
Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse
Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse
Learn ways to help couples have safer, more loving relationships.
Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse
Learn ways to help couples have safer, more loving relationships.
Domestic violence has been a phenomenon in romantic relationships for as long as relationships have existed. Domestic violence has been called intimate partner violence in recent scholarly literature. These terms are one and the same. This workshop is designed to guide therapists towards a deeper understanding about intimate partner aggression, and learn ways to help couples have safer, more loving relationships.
Built to Support the Work You Do
Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse is an advanced clinical training designed to equip therapists with the structure, discernment, and confidence required to work effectively and ethically with couples impacted by aggression and abuse. This course offers both depth and practical application—integrating research-based principles of Gottman Method Couples Therapy with clear clinical decision-making frameworks to enhance safety, accountability, and therapeutic outcomes.
Faculty
Presented by Dr. Carrie Cole, Research Director and Director of the Love Lab at The Gottman Institute, and Dr. Don Cole, Clinical Director at The Gottman Institute, Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse will provide a framework to help the couples suffering from intimate partner aggression who walk into your practice.
The Focus of this Training
The focus of this training is on psychological aggression, sometimes referred to in scholarly literature as intimate partner aggression.
Current researchers have not always made the distinction between aggression and types of violence in the intimate partner violence literature, and have included physical abuse, psychological abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and coercive control in their definitions of the term.
We have worked hard to offer you depth and variety within this course, hoping that something you experience, see, hear, or feel will inspire and motivate you.
During this training participants will:
- Identify situational versus characterological aggression.
- Distinguish between the strategies for dealing with characterological aggression.
- Discover the four major treatment goals for reducing aggression in couples.
- Apply proper treatment strategies for bi-directional aggression and for unidirectional aggression.
- Differentiate underlying contributing factors to IPA and how these can be dealt with in therapy.
- Examine four treatment goals
- Apply treatment goals with couples experiencing partner aggression in their relationship
Integrate and adapt the principles and interventions of Gottman Method Couples Therapy into your own approach to working with couples.
Enhance accountability and success in your clinical work like never before.
Achieve greater clarity and focus in Gottman Method Couples Therapy by integrating a robust structure to work with couples and prevent relapse.
Benefit from the experience, knowledge, and enthusiasm of Gottman Therapists who will help build your competence and confidence.
What’s Inside this Training?
- Each participant will receive materials designed to help therapists and counselors effectively facilitate assessments, interventions, and exercises with their couples that can be used immediately following the training. All assessments and exercises may be photocopied or printed as handouts for couples.
- 68-page Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse PDF Digital Manual
- Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse Training Certificate of Completion upon passing the Assessment of Knowledge
- Up to 7.5 CE Hours for the training are available for an additional fee.
Who is this training for?
This training is for mental health therapists, counselors, social workers, clergy, military family life chaplains, life coaches, recovery coaches, professors, students and professionals who work with couples affected by alcohol, drugs and/or behavioral addictions.
No prior experience or training in the Gottman Method is required; however, therapists who work with couples will greatly benefit from having at least completed Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
If you are interested in hosting an in-person Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse Training, please email training@gottman.com.
What Clinicians Are Saying
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need previous Gottman training to attend?
Specific interventions will be taught at the workshop, many based on modified or adapted approaches from the Gottman Method. While previous Gottman training is not required to attend this workshop, counselors, therapists. and recovery professionals who have completed Level 1 Training will find previous training helpful and relevant to both the theory and interventions covered in this training.
What if I haven’t had any couples training before?
This training offers service providers of all types, the concepts and skills needed to help couples understand and talk about intimate partner aggression.
Participants interested in receiving the introductory training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy may purchase an online course or attend a live two-day workshop.
Are CEs available for this training?
This course is offered for 7.5 Continuing Education (CE) credits from the Cognitive Behavior Institute. Please check with your licensing board to ensure that they accept CEs through Cognitive behavioral Institute.
To receive the CE credits, complete the quiz with 80% or better. To purchase CEs:
- STEP 1: Create an account on CBI Center for Education www.cbicenterforeducation.com
- STEP 2: Follow the link to purchase CEs from our CE co-sponsor – www.cbicenterforeducation.com. (complete the quiz with 80% or better before purchasing CEs)
“Cognitive Behavior Institute is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Cognitive Behavior Institute maintains responsibility for this program and its content.” “Cognitive Behavior Institute, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Psychology as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed psychologists #PSY-0098 and the State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #SW-0646 and the State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed mental health counselors #MHC-0216.”
This event is not currently NBCC ACEP-approved. However, it meets the guidelines for continuing education. https://www.nbcc.org/resources/nccs/earnce
Can I host an in-person Therapy training?
If you are interested in hosting an in-person Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse Training, please email training@gottman.com.
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Lessons in Love Leader Training
Lessons in Love Leader Training
For Professionals looking to host workshops for singles
About Lessons in Love Leader Training
Are you passionate about guiding singles towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships?
Become a Lessons in Love Leader and start hosting singles workshops! For clinical professionals.
The Gottman Institute with Stacy Hubbard, LMFT, has adapted the Gottman Seven Principles to help singles learn the foundations for future relationship success. Individuals who attend singles workshops will be able to learn more about themselves, reflect on their past relationships, and increase emotional awareness for future connections.
Showing participants how to work with the small daily moments that make up the heart and soul of any relationship, the Lessons in Love Leader Training will introduce you to how to teach singles proven, practical, and effective strategies for making their next relationship work.
Sign up for the Gottman Pro Newsletter, if you aren’t already subscribed, to find out when the next Lessons in Love Leader virtual training event will be scheduled.
This training provides the tools and know-how to take small groups of singles through course content and to prepare them for a future relationship while reflecting on their past. Singles will learn about the phases of a relationship, the danger signs while dating, and how to be prepared to find a long-lasting partnership.
Whether at your church, community center, place of business, or home, the material you will learn in this training can be taught by anyone interested in making a difference in another person’s.
What will I Learn in the Lessons in Love Leader Training?
This training will prepare you to teach individuals via in-person or virtual formats on how to use the Lessons in Love: Seven Principles for Singles materials.
You will learn how to lead people through the Singles Guide, with a combination of lecture, multi-media presentations, interactive exercises, role-plays, and discussions.
You will also learn how to teach individuals lecture content by integrating research from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and how to educate people through relationship-enhancing exercises.
As a result of this training, you will be able to:
- Know how to plan, budget, market, and organize your own Lessons in Love: Seven Principles for Singles workshops
- Gain practical strategies for presenting the Gottman Lessons in Love Program, in both in-person and virtual formats, in your community
- Learn how to present the lectures and content to your students
- Know how to support and encourage the class
- Develop skills to handle difficult situations and make referrals
- Understand how to use hard-copy and digital singles materials to enrich the workshop experience
- Be able to market yourself as a “Gottman Lessons in Love Leader”
Who is this training for?
Whether you have years of experience as a clinically trained therapist or are a layperson, this training will give you tools to facilitate a Gottman Lessons in Love Program for singles in your community.
This is for:
- Clergy
- Educators
- Life coaches
- Therapists
- Community leaders
- Social workers
What is Included in the Price?
- Access to a virtual Lessons in Love Training in a live webinar format
- One (1) digital copy of the Gottman Lessons in Love Leader Guide
- One (1) digital copy of the Gottman Lessons in Love Singles Guide
- Marketing and other resource material to create your own Singles Workshop
Upon completion of the training, attendees receive an official Gottman Lessons in Love Leader certificate of completion and seal. Registration includes all digital materials: Lessons in Love Leader Guide, Lessons in Love Singles Guide, and an on-demand course, which contains the core items facilitators need to present a productive and engaging workshop.
The Singles Guide also serves as course material for the Lessons in Love: Seven Principles for Singles workshops, which leaders can bulk order to use in a class or group setting. Your students can follow along closely as you teach the Lessons in Love curriculum. It is required to purchase Singles Guides for students if you would like to market your event as a Lessons in Love Singles Workshop.
*Completion of the Lessons in Love Leader Training is required to receive the Leader Guide.
Training Objectives
As a result of this training, you will be able to:
- Know how to plan, budget, market, and organize your own Gottman Lessons in Love Program for singles
- Gain practical strategies for presenting the Gottman Lessons in Love Program, in both in-person and virtual formats, in your community
- Learn how to present the lectures and content to your students
- Know how to support and encourage the class
- Develop skills to handle difficult situations and make referrals
- Understand how to use hard-copy and digital materials to enrich the workshop experience
- Be able to market yourself as a “Gottman Lessons in Love Leader”
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the difference between the Seven Principles Program and the Lessons in Love programs?
The Lessons in Love: Seven Principles for Singles workshops are designed for professionals to teach singles in their community rather than couples. This is not a course for couples to attend.
What do I need to do before attending?
Before attending, it would be helpful to read the “Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman and Nan Silver, but it is not required.
Do I need to attend with a partner?
No, this training is to teach single individuals to reflect on past relationships and implement the Seven Principles in future relationships. This course is not intended for couples. This course is intended for professionals. If you plan to co-teach the course with a peer professional or a partner, they are required to attend the workshop. Please have them register to attend. Anyone teaching the workshop needs to have access to the material via their Gottman.com account page.
What is the cancellation policy?
Refunds are offered for the workshop until one week prior to the training event, which is when materials are made available. If you need to cancel, please contact training@gottman.com. You will be able to register for the workshop until the day before the event. Please wait to register if you are unsure of your availability during the scheduled times, which are all in the Pacific Time Zone.
Is there a group discount available?
Please contact training@gottman.com for parties of 3 or more.
What are the requirements for becoming a Lessons in Love Leader?
In order to successfully become a Lessons in Love Leader, you must:
- Complete the Lessons in Love: Seven Principles for Singles Leader Training Program
- Pass the Lessons in Love Leader Exam
- Agree to the Leader’s Agreement included in your digital materials
What are the requirements for maintaining the Lessons in Love Leader status?
Continuing status is granted to those who maintain a favorable status with The Gottman Institute, as evidenced by:
- Adherence to the Gottman Lessons in Love Leader Training Program Agreement
- The maintenance of professional standards of conduct as defined by The Gottman Institute
The benefits of maintaining credentials include:
- A website posting of one’s name and program
- Notification / newsletter(s) of program updates
- Advanced notice of products, materials, and information from The Gottman Institute
Are hard-copy versions of the Lessons in Love materials available?
Yes, The Gottman Institute has the hard-copy Guides available for purchase.
- The Guides may be included as add-ons during your initial registration.
- You may purchase the Lessons in Love Singles Guide here.
- If you would like to purchase the Leader Guide after registration, please contact customerservice@gottman.com for assistance. This product is not available on the Gottman Store, as it is only available for Lessons in Love Leaders.
What can a Gottman Lessons in Love Leader do upon successful completion of the training?
The Gottman Lessons in Love Leader status authorizes as instructor / facilitator to:
- Independently teach and facilitate the 7.5-hour Lessons in Love Singles Workshop
- Use the Lessons in Love Leader title and distinction
Are there any limitations to what I can do with my Lessons in Love Leader title?
Yes, please refer to the leader agreement included in the training digital materials.
What other TGI products could be helpful for my singles workshops?
The Gottman Institute has a suite of products available depending on your application. If you are a group leader and this training will be used to prepare you further for group sessions you should purchase one for every attendee of the Lessons in Love Singles Guides. Available in digital or the popular physical formats.
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Is the training on demand? Will the sessions be recorded, can I watch later?
The Lessons in Love Leader training itself is a live training available on Zoom. The online, digital materials are available on demand after the training. A recording of the training will also be made available.
What is the timezone?
All times listed are in the Pacific Time zone. Here is a resource to see the time for your area: https://www.worldtimebuddy.com
I'm very interested in doing the training but I am in Australia and the timing is overnight. Are you offering the ability to do it via a recording?
The Lessons in Love Leader Training is offered as a live virtual training in the Pacific Time Zone. We highly recommend this format as trainers will take audience questions, and you may have the opportunity to have your questions answered live. If you are unable to attend the training in real-time, you will have access to the digital recordings after the event.
Event recordings will be posted within two weeks of the original training dates. You will find these recordings in your digital training materials, which are available on your Gottman.com account page.
CEUs are only available for those who are able to attend the training live, as attendance is recorded.
Are the training materials, singles materials, and other Gottman Method products available for translating?
The Lessons in Love materials are provided in English. The Gottman Institute is not currently accepting requests to translate the Lessons in Love materials into additional languages.
Do you have Continuing Education Credits for the course?
Cognitive Behavioral Institute, LLC is offering up to 7.5 Continuing Education Credits (CEs) for this course. A link will be provided to participants who have attended the entire live, online session. Attendance is recorded. CEs are optional and are an additional $40. They are optional and do not impact your ability to be a Lessons in Love Leader or to utilize the psychoeducational curriculum with singles.
How are the materials delivered?
The materials are delivered directly to your Gottman.com account upon registration and payment. Please reach out to customerservice@gottman.com if you are unable to access your materials.
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