… man and his wife on verge of divorce or separation, arguing indoors
Uttering this phrase can signal defeat to a gaslighter, emboldening them to tighten their grip on your reality. It’s a pronouncement that you’re at the end of your tether, which they may interpret as a victory. As noted by Dr. Julie Gottman, co-founder of the Gottman Institute, expressing saturation without resolution can leave you feeling more trapped than empowered. Instead, focus on setting clear boundaries with consequences that protect your mental space.
When you declare “I can’t do this anymore,” you might …