… are some tools that will teach you how to self-soothe and be the best listener possible.
Here are seven little things deeply empathetic listeners do in every single conversation:
1. Take notes to stay grounded, not reactive
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Renowned American psychologist Dr. John Gottman suggests using a notepad to write down everything your partner says, which is especially helpful when you’re feeling defensive. This also helps you remember what was said when you reflect on what you hear, or it’s your turn to speak.
Remind yourself that you’re listening to your partner because … More Valuable
Kyle Benson is an Intentionally Intimate Relationship coach, providing practical, research-based tools to build long-lasting relationships. He is best known for his compassion and non-judgmental style, as well as his capacity to identify the root problem.
Co-founded by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, The Gottman Institute‘s approach to relationship health has been developed from 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples.
This article was originally published at The Gottman Institute. Reprinted with permission from the author.