Expressing Compassion and Empathy

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The fourth and final key to maintaining intimacy in conversations with your partner is to express compassion and empathy when he or she is upset.

Intimate Conversations and Collective Monologue

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When we are afraid of the possible consequences, we cannot trust our partners to listen and fully support us - especially not when it comes to our deepest feelings, hopes, or dreams.

Building Bridges

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As many of us know all too well, trust begins and ends with emotional communication.

The Zeigarnik Effect

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The dynamics of flowcharts, mathematical models, and interpretations for detailed experimental results on trust - a subject that has barely been touched by scientists - are foreign to most of us.

Negative Sentiment Override and Quiz

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University of Oregon emeritus psychologist Robert Weiss coined the term “Negative Sentiment Override” (NSO) for the emergence of troubling patterns in which trust has been broken in relationships.

Sliding Door Moments

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Following over 35 years of research, Dr. Gottman has discovered something very surprising. He now understands  something that is counter-intuitive to many of us. 

The Three Boxes

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After spending decades researching the intersections between behavioral economics and relationship psychology, Dr. John Gottman has made a number of incredible discoveries about relationships. 

Inside the Love Lab

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Dr. Gottman’s research on trust is groundbreaking. Widely recognized as the world’s foremost researcher on marriage and relationships, his intuition and natural ease with people are not his only gifts. 

The Love Lab

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Dr. Gottman opens his long-awaited book, What Makes Love Last?, with an unsettling anecdote about trust: suspecting his wife of cheating, one man crept outside in the morning before he left for work to draw chalk marks on his wife's rear tires.