Commitment

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If trust is something that you feel, commitment is something that you do. It’s taking your partner with you wherever you go.

Trust

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There are two pillars that make up the “weight bearing walls” of the Sound Relationship House. These two qualities form the basis for the overall stability of a relationship.

Create Shared Meaning

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Dr. Gottman suggests that couples Create Shared Meaning through the use of rituals, roles, goals, and symbols.

Make Life Dreams Come True

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Begin investing in the future of your relationship by exploring what it means to Make Life Dreams Come True.

Manage Conflict – Part 4

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Managing conflict isn’t simply about being aware of and intentional about your thoughts and your words.

Manage Conflict – Part 3

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Once you accept that 2/3 of marital issues are about perpetual problems, you can turn your attention toward the next essential skill in conflict management: learning to Dialogue About Problems.

Manage Conflict – Part 2

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When it comes to relationships, if one partner is “winning,” then both partners are losing.

Manage Conflict – Part 1

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The real symbol of your relationship health isn’t how perfect your wedding day is. It’s how well you handle the inevitable problems you will face in your marriage.

Turn Towards Instead of Away

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State your needs, be aware of bids for connection, and turn towards them.

Share Fondness and Admiration

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Sharing fondness and admiration is the antidote to contempt and, more importantly, it increases the amount of affection and respect in a relationship.

Build Love Maps

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Dr. Gottman’s term for getting to know your partner’s world is called Build Love Maps.

Building a Sound Relationship House

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I’m really excited to shine a light on the early stages of a relationship with a new series we’re calling “New Construction.” Over the next few months, I’ll use this space to speak to how the Gottman body of research informs new relationships, specifically pre-marrieds and newlyweds.