The Gottman's Workshop for Couples - Now on DVD and Video

For Anyone Who Wants Their Relationship To Attain Its Highest Potential!                                                  

The Gottman's popular couples workshop, The Art and Science of Love, is now available in both DVD and video  formats. Whether you are in a strong relationship and want to make it even better, or are having marriage or relationship problems, and even possibly considering marriage counseling, you can now gain immediate help from leading relationship experts, Drs. John and Julie Gottman.  In this groundbreaking workshop, the Gottmans teach powerful information and tools for building and maintaining a loving and successful relationship.  Thousands of couples have attended the highly acclaimed live workshop, which is offered four times each year in Seattle. Now you can experience the live workshop with the Gottmans on video or DVD in the privacy of your home and at your own pace. Learn how you and your partner can better cope with life’s stresses and become a stronger team. Learn how to renew intimacy, enhance respect, and strengthen your love, commitment and friendship. Gain lasting skills to communicate and resolve conflicts with calm and care.

You will be entertained by humorous stories and role-plays by John and Julie, and instructed in relationship building exercises to practice together. By the end of the video/DVD workshop, you will have a greater understanding of your relationship and the skills to enhance or repair it.

This video/DVD workshop includes:

• 7 hours of research-based relationship guidance packed with role-plays based on true-life experiences
• Valuable interactive exercises
• A step-by-step exercise guide

Positive, practical and immediately useful!                  This workshop is designed for couples that want to strengthen their relationship no matter what its current state. If a couple has a good marriage (or committed relationship), this workshop will provide insights and tools to make it a great one. If a couple’s marriage is in trouble, this workshop offers a road map for repair!

Based on 30 years of marital research:                          All materials and presentations are based on John Gottman’s three decades of research on more than 3,000 couples. John Gottman is world renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, involving the study of emotions, physiology, and communication. His breakthrough research on marriage and parenting has earned him numerous major awards. He has been professor of psychology at the University of Washington since 1986 and founded the Family Research Laboratory (or what the media has termed "The Love Lab") where much of his ongoing research on couples and families is conducted.

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Six-Part Series, Topics You’ll Cover:
This video/DVD workshop is divided into six parts. Each section includes video presentation from the live workshop for couples plus exercises for you to complete with your partner. The time needed to complete each section ranges from 45 minutes to 3 hours. Topics include:

PART ONE
Introduction to the Workshop
In the introduction you'll learn about what really makes marriages work, based on John Gottman’s studies of over 3,000 couples. You’ll have a guided tour of the Love Lab, at the Univ. of WA, and learn the principles of making small changes in your relationship, that can, over time, create big improvements.                                                   Creating A Love Map of Your Partner’s World
A Love Map is a type of guide to your partner’s world. Learn more about its importance and experience the Love Map exercise. Does your partner really know who you are? Does your partner know your values, life’s mission, worries, hopes, and aspirations? When your partner knows your inner psychological world, you both feel closer.

PART TWO
Building Fondness and Admiration
Our research shows that friendship is the strong foundation for passion and romance in relationships, and affection and respect are an important basis for friendship. Many times when people are upset with one another they lose sight of the positive aspects of their partner and of their relationship. Exploring the areas that you appreciate in each other can have positive consequences.
How to Turn Towards Each Other
Tiny, everyday moments when people connect with each other are the building blocks of all relationships. People use connection with each other all the time to get emotional support, share conversation and humor, exchange interests, and receive affection. There is a law of Turning Toward: Turning toward leads to more turning toward. Learn how.
How to Have A Stress-Reducing Conversation
In today’s world stress runs very high, and a couple’s ability to create a peaceful home that is soothing is crucial. When and how does this happen? Who initiates it? Learn how to ritualize this important exchange.

PART THREE
The Difference Between A Solvable Problem And A Gridlocked Problem
In our research we have discovered that most of the time (69% to be exact) couples never resolve their major marital issues. Couples in stable marriages though, have arrived at some level of peace about their perpetual problems. Learn how to distinguish between your relationship’s solvable issues and your gridlocked, unsolvable problems. Learn how to move from gridlock to dialogue.
Flooding and Self-Soothing
When you are tense, your heart beats faster, leading to emotional "flooding." It is important to tell your partner you need a short break—at least 20 minutes--to calm yourself down. Learn five secrets to soothing yourself. Later in the workshop you’ll practice effective techniques for soothing yourself and your partner following marital conflict.

PART FOUR
Regulation of Conflict; Softened Start-up; No Fault Discussions and Accepting Influence
The "Masters of Marriage" use specific strategies when resolving conflicts. The steps include: 
  1. Begin conflict discussions softly: the way a conflict   discussion starts determines a great deal of what happens during the entire discussion
  2. Repair the interaction and de-escalate when the discussion becomes too negative
  3. Learn to accept influence, express agreement with at least part of what your partner is asking for on the issue
  4. Learn to develop compromise: yield to win. 
  5. Accept what you can’t change: accept one another  We’ll teach you how.

PART FIVE
Changing Gridlocked Problems to Perpetual Dialogue
Learn and practice having a dialogue with a perpetual issue, rather than remaining gridlocked. The problem will probably never go away completely, but you can reduce the tension so as to begin to accept that this problem can exist in your marriage without being such a great source of pain.
Processing A Fight
It’s a myth that successful couples never fight. It happens in the best of marriages. What helps is to recover from a fight, process what happened and make it better. Watch as we role-play how to process a fight.

PART SIX
Creating Shared Meaning
This section is designed to help you and your spouse gain a deeper understanding of yourself. We discuss the impact that creating shared meaning has on your relationship and guide you through an exercise to share your dreams and the legacy you would like to leave in this world.
The Magic Five Hours A Week
We have discovered that the couples who continue to improve their relationship after the couples workshops are couples who focus on their relationship five hours a week. Couples report that they restructure their time together, using some the approaches learned at our workshop. Learn how to maintain the gains you make in your relationship.

Important:                                                                          If your relationship is currently troubled by more severe problems, such as physical battery, addiction, or mental illness, we urge you to consult a psychotherapist before viewing this videotape.

Order Information:                                                        $175.00  This user-friendly video/DVD workshop includes 4 video tapes of research-based relationship guidance, valuable interactive exercises and a step-by step exercise guide.                                                                          Click Here if You Wish to Purchase this Workshop. 

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The Relationship Quiz:                                                   One of the most important features of successful couple relationships is the quality of the friendship. Do you know your partner's 'inner world'? Take the Relationship Quiz by Dr. John Gottman and find out. Click here.