In the Media

ON TELEVISION - CBS News
Click below to view a brief interview with Drs. John and Julie Gottman as they teach skills to help partners avoid the pitfalls of  new parenthood by: maintaining intimacy and romance; replacing a culture of criticism with appreciation; preventing postpartum depression; and creating a home environment that nurtures physical, emotional, and mental health for both new parents and their baby;
New Parents and Married Life

IN THE NEWS
MarketWatch from Dow Jones - May 2007
Read the article about the effects of Children on a marriage and the hospital based couseling program to help prepare parents for what can be a very chaotic time.
Researcher Target Kids' Toll on Marriage

Birth of Baby Girl Brings Everett Parents Home Too
Seattle Times Newspaper - January 2007
"We were doing so much to prepare ourselves for our first child," Grace said. They read lots of books, took maternity classes, rented video tapes and talked to other parents. The Gottman study, which included a two-day workshop, was different because it focused on their marriage and relationship skills. The Gottmans developed the workshop after research found two-thirds of couples report a significant drop in marital satisfaction after their first baby".  Read more about the importance of Making Time For Each Other.

Discovery Health Channel (digital channel for high-end cable subscribers, need to check local listing for channel)has broadcast a number of shows featuring John and Julie Gottman's work with a variety of couples.

THE LOVE LAB
Newlyweds begin their marriages with the best of intentions, but the weight of the struggle that lies ahead can often be more than a couple can bear. Not surprisingly, nearly half of all marriages ultimately end in divorce. What goes on behind closed doors between husbands and wives has been largely a mystery to researchers. But now an extraordinary window is being opened allowing us to glimpse into the deeply secret lives of married people. We’ll explore the University of Washington’s world famous "Love Lab," where marital researcher and best-selling author Dr. John Gottman is conducting groundbreaking research on the deeply troubled institution of marriage. What he’s learned will surprise you. For many couples, "The Love Lab" is a place to strengthen a happy marriage. Others come to repair troubled relationships. And for a desperate few, "The Love Lab" is the destination of last resort. See the passions, the tensions, and the heartaches of couples desperately trying to find domestic happiness at "The Love Lab."

GOTTMAN INTERVIEWS

Search the Internet, and you will find numerous articles, interviews, and related websites on John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman and about the Gottman Institute. We've put together links to some particularly useful sites. The first section is mainstream press, and then scroll down for articles on gay and lesbian couples. Go ahead! Link, look, learn and enjoy!

The Art and Science of Love
Networker Magazine, September 2006
Take a journey through the consistently 'sold-out' Couples Weekend Workshop.  Learn about the history of The Gottman Institute and the research of over 3000 couples.

An Interview with John Gottman, Ph.D.
Psychotherapy.net, 2006
Extensive Interview with John Gottman discussing topics such as: What works in Couples Therapy; What happy marriages are made of; Future breakthroughs.  You can also earn CE credit with this interview.

Building better connections with family, friends. New Book explores the secrets behind successful relationships.
MSNBC/Today Show, May 30, 2001
What makes relationships work, and why do they break down? Those are the questions being studied at a unique research laboratory in Seattle called “The Love Lab.” Psychologist John Gottman is among those studying the everyday interactions of people in order to identify “the masters of relationships.” Learn how the masters do it by reading an excerpt from Dr. Gottman’s book, “The Relationship Cure,” through this link.

Check Into the Love Lab
Men’s Health Magazine, January 2000
A Seattle psychologist says he can predict divorce with 90% accuracy. Maybe it's time to put your relationship to the test. THIS DOESN'T LOOK like a typical marriage counselor's office. –by Joe Kita

Researchers Develop Workshops Tailored to Gay and Lesbian Couples
APA Monitor, April 2001
Gay and lesbian couples face many of the same hurdles as straight couples, but they approach relationship conflicts differently, according to recent research by psychologists John Gottman, PhD, and Robert Levenson, PhD. –by D. Smith

The truth? Men live longer and healthier if they're married. Here's how to make the love last.
WebMD Medical News, October 26, 2000
Fourteen years ago, before psychologist John Gottman, PhD, had become one of the country's most respected marriage researchers, he was courting a woman at a seafood restaurant in Seattle. Dinner had just been served when the apple of his eye, in a grouchy mood, let loose with a nasty comment. Gottman fell to the floor, clutching his chest. From underneath the table, he moaned, "Nice shooting, partner -- you got me," a line he stole from a cowboy game he used to play in an amusement arcade. When he came up from under the table, his future wife was laughing -- and a tense moment was defused. This use of humor is one of many examples of how men and women can stay connected and keep their love and themselves healthy!–by Rob Waters

Welcome to the Love Lab
Psychology Today, September 2000
Words can heal an ailing relationship--or seal its negative fate. The way a couple argues can tell you a lot about the future of their relationship. In fact, just three minutes of fighting can indicate whether this love will flourish with time or end in ruin. –by John Gottman and Sybil Carrere

Gottman and Gray: The Two John's
Psychotherapy.net, July 2000
In a Nutshsell, Gottman is the Gold Standard while Gray is the Gold Earner.  Compare the 2 in a side-by-side chart of accomplishments.

Inside the Love Lab
A Research Psychologist Goes Pop
Linguafranca, March 2000
A bald man with a handlebar mustache slumps in his chair, looking a bit like a pinned butterfly. Across from him, his wife--her chest encased by a plastic tube that measures the depth of her breathing--ticks off a list of complaints: He's willing to act goofy but won't behave like a real dad; he's irresponsible; he lacks follow-through. Visibly uncomfortable and upset, Handlebar wriggles, breathes in, blinks, darts his eyes around. In this article, you’ll read about research at the Family Research Lab and what it means to take science out of the ivory tower and into the world of relationships. -by Emily Nussbaum

Marriage can affect your health: work on it every day, 'love lab' boss suggests
Toronto Sun, January 20, 2000
A bad marriage can kill you, says a U.S. love doctor, John Gottman. He says less than wedded bliss increases the chance of illness 35% and knocks four years off your life. -by Steve Payne

Four warning signs of a marital meltdown
The Seattle Times, Sunday, October 24, 1999
The relationship is more negative than positive. In marriages headed for divorce, things may be only slightly more negative than positive. But marriages that are doing well are at least five times more positive than negative. –by John Gottman

Chat with John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
iVillage Relationships Chats, Fall 1999
iVillage: Join John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, to find out how you can help your marriage or long term relationship withstand the trials of time.
John_Gottman: Hello everyone! What's different about my approach to relationships is that it's based upon research with both the masters and disasters of marriage. So instead of the advice coming from my experience, it comes from hundreds of couples of all ages. Does anyone have any questions? –facilitated by Kathleen Kherrity

Visit the following links for interviews and coverage on gay and lesbian couples research and workshops. Where live links aren’t available, we’ve connected you with an archive that can provide the article.

Relationship remedies: Conflict resolution studies find more straight talk in gay couples.
John Gottman thinks straight couples have a thing or two to learn from gay men and lesbians when it comes to building healthy, happy relationships. Sharing what he's learned about successful relationships is the reason Gottman and his wife, clinical psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman, started the Seattle Marital and Family Institute five years ago. And it's why the renamed Gottman Institute sponsored what it called the first research-based couples education program for lesbian couples in mid-June.
–by Sandy Nelson Tacoma News Tribune, July 11, 2001

Researchers develop workshops tailored to gay and lesbian couples.
Gay and lesbian couples face many of the same hurdles as straight couples, but they approach relationship conflicts differently, according to recent research by psychologists John Gottman, PhD, and Robert Levenson, PhD.
–by D. Smith APA Monitor, April 2001

A Gay Thing
For years, we've been trying to convince straight Americans that, other than the fact that same-sex couples are made up of two men or two women, we operate essentially the same way they do. We fall in love and move in and argue over who hogs the blanket and whose turn it is to take out the trash.
-by Mubarak Dahir Windy City Times, February 21, 2001

Turns Out the Happy Couple Is . . . Gay?
Los Angeles Times archives, February 5, 2001
Many therapists have served the needs of gay and lesbian couples. Like heterosexual couples, same-sex partners seek counseling for everything from a mate whose sloppiness is like nails to a chalkboard to grappling with severely mismatched libidos. -by Kathleen Kelleher